I think it’s ok to talk to him about it and ask if he keeps it a secret… but just so you know… some guys can’t hold secrets very well. I’m not going to scare you away from this at all… I mean it… but I do want you to realize that once you tell someone… the secret is out… even if just a little bit… it’s out there.
And I don’t think that’s a bad thing… and he MAY actually keep your secret quiet… but don’t think that just because he understands who you are… that he’ll feel the same way about keeping things quiet. I’ve had friends slip into that kind of stuff.
So what am I telling you? I think it’s good that you want to seek him out to get to know him and what not. I think it’s a good idea, and one well worth exploring… but you have to know that there is a possibility that things come out a bit… and you should be ok with that… honestly.
If you’re not ready for that possibility, then you may need to consider what you’re looking to do right now. At 14, you have PLENTY of time to think about things. If you’re ready, then go for it. :-D
I hope this helps. I’m definitely here for you and certainly understand the position you are in. Just remember, if you’re ready… then move on. If you’re not, that’s ok too. :-)