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Then we started kissing sometimes when we would hang out when no one else was around, but we wouldn't ever mention it. And when we hang out sometimes we'll lean on each other and we've shared food before and just have fun together a lot which is just what normal friends do, but it kinda seems like more with us. (CONTINUED. sorry this is so long :/)

I’m not sure if I’m missing a part but I couldn’t seem to find it… but I think I’m catching the drift. 

The last part you posted… you sent to me without being anonymous.  And since you started it that way, I’m guessing you don’t want to be “known”… so I’ll post what you wrote here on this part.. and then answer below.  :-)

But when we’re not kissing, she seems really homophobic. I think she’s just sorta scared because as she’s grown up, she’s been taught that being like that is wrong. But I really don’t know :( I think I could even love her. I think about her all the time and it puts a smile on my face and butterflies in my stomach, and I miss her when we’re not together for more than a day. I wish she and I could be together, but I’m afraid of making a wrong move and destroying our friendship.Help? :) PLEASE(:

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Alright, clearly you are feeling something deep … and it’s completely understandable because you two kiss and are good friends and all.  The issue is that she’s struggling with her identity.  You say she’s “grown up” but I don’t know what the age difference is between the two of you.  It’s pretty clear that she just doesn’t really know what she wants right now. 

The biggest problem here is that until she knows what she wants… you’re going to keep getting this hot/cold attitude from her.  I know that’s a terrible thing to say, but it’s the truth.  And I’m not sure what to recommend for you to do until she can make that decision in her life… as I don’t know how long that will take.  It may be that she’ll come around soon… or it could be something that she struggles with for months or years. 

The best thing I can tell you to do may be a bit painful for you.  You may need to pull back a little bit and give her some room to make some smart decisions.  You may also want to talk to her and let her know how you feel… that you are very interested but at the same time… you don’t want to ruin your friendship.  Since you and her have kissed a lot… I don’t think it’s a stretch to talk to her about it.  She’s clearly showing you SOME level of interest so I think the conversation can definitely be had.

Let me know if that helps.   :-) 

~kev